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  Wife joining, but I don't want the kids to get all brainwashed

  by Check_Your_Premises in

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  my wife is joining.

  she feels that the choice is between nothing and god, and that the only way to have a relationship with god is through these people.

  i have accepted that.

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  Well, unfortunately when it comes to my son being with his father, I don't exist. He takes him regardless of what I say, he does what he wants. He treats me as if I were an interference instead of the boys mother. He still lives at home with his parents, his wife & new son and when our son is with them, he's getting it hand over fist. What am I doing about it? Lots...courts, mediation, it's all in the works now...but in the mean time I tell him that his dad does things different, and when it comes up that his dad doesn't do birthdays, etc. He's 4...there's not much understanding on either side right now for him, but I'm working on it!!

  I don't get invited to his meetings, again, I don't exist in his world now, and every step he takes in this direction is going to come back & haunt him shortly. I came to this site to learn about what I'm up against, and boy howdy!

  SK
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  Wife joining, but I don't want the kids to get all brainwashed

  by Check_Your_Premises in

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  my wife is joining.

  she feels that the choice is between nothing and god, and that the only way to have a relationship with god is through these people.

  i have accepted that.

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  Seeking Knowledge

  sounds like a good plan. I too, have problems with my ex taking our son to meetings, and have resolved myself for the time being to making sure our son has another view on religion, he goes to church with me, and he gets birthdays & Christmas and all the holidays in between.

  You have a good strategy. Your kids are lucky...let us know how it goes!

  SK
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  My first post and THANK YOU to all

  by xjwms in

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  this site has been a place that i have visited many times.. i would like to make some friends and meet local people.. to blondie ... words cannot explain how much i appreciate.

  the reviews.

  i can see so clearly how the studies keep members.

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  Wow...so many newbies!! Welcome! STick around!
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  I'm new to the board

  by mjl in

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  there has been a few new to board so what's one more?

  i've been reading the board for a few weeks and i'm impressed at the amount of research that goes into many of postings.

  there are two topics that really get me going, one is "607 bce".

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  Welcome Welcome!
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  Hi everyone!

  by schne_belly in

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  well - this is my first post.

  i want to express my gratitude to all of you in jwd land for the help you provide.

  i'd be glad to relate stories, and experiences in the future, but wanted to introduce myself first.

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  Welcome! Hope you stay awhile!

  SK
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  Explaining Christmas to My 10 Year Old Daughter...

  by adelmaal in

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  i was talking with my daughter yesterday about the memorial.

  it falls on my day with her and i previously noticed that christmas falls on her dad's day with her this year.

  i have never had any problem with my daughter attending the memorial with her dad on my day but he has had her the past 2 years for christmas and he has issues with me having her for christmas on his day.

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  Hi Adelmaal

  I've got the same problem with my ex, in that he's not willing to compromise anything, the rules are his and that's the way he wants to play it. The difference is, I did have a lawyer and made sure I got all major holidays with my son.

  When it comes to changing "our days" I'm learning that it's best to put it in writing what you want. You need to document everything you are doing to show, one day, that you have tried to reason with this man and have tried to make your daughters needs first. She's at an age now where she can speak up, and if she wants to do Christmas with you, he needs to take that into consideration. That being said, I know what you are up against.

  With my ex, I approach it in a calm almost casual manner "hey, we're doing this & that this year in December, and I would like to know if you're willing to switch a date with me? I want December 25, and since I have ____ during the Memorial, I thought that would be the best switch for us" or something like that. Usually, when I make it come out "his" idea (in his own one celled brain) he is usually receptive to it. Tell him you need to know by a certain date & get it in writing, get it signed by both of you and get it notarized. I have to do this each & every time. I can tell you mediation is in our future as well and no doubt he won't go or won't agree to anything. That is not in the best interest of the kid and the courts don't like that! Just a thought!

  SK
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  Would you....

  by HadEnuf in

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  today i decided that people on this forum need some bragging rights.

  (of course this is just a veiled disguise for me to claim some of my own bragging rights.

  good things happen all the time to my friends on this site and we never hear about them.

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  I'm a bit late, but I'm most very proud of the fact that I have single handedly raised a 16 year old girl who talks to me the way I never could with my mom, who hasn't tried drugs or smoked, who is still a virgin (yes she would tell me) and who is my voice of reason when I lose my mind. Not only that but she is trying to maintain a B or higher average in high school.....and is beautiful, independent and loves her family, especially her little brother.

  I'm proud of the fact I have a 4 year old son, who is facing hardship in his life with his parents not getting along, having to learn 2 different religious backgrounds (and languages) and will be open minded about his own life. I can only hope that he takes the same road his sister is on. He's also very loving and very much a little boy. He loves his family and he knows when you are sad the best thing he can do is crawl up in your lap to give you a hug, or lick your face, depending on his mood. I love the fact he's a little weirdo!!

  I'm proud of the fact that my kids are wonderful. Every day is a challenge and everyday is a reward when I see the faces of these 2 wonderful people that God saw fit to bless me with. I guess I'm pretty proud of myself as well, I did have something to do with this, altho sometimes it's hard to accept that. ha!!

  Hadenuf...congrats on your future rock & roller!!

  SK
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  Going to see Motley Crue where I used to go to District Convention

  by Dustin in

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  funny story, i'm going to go and see the motley crue reunion tour in a month.

  thing is it's at the aliant energy center in madison where we used to go for the conventions.

  we are sitting in the same section where we always sat, because my dad was in charge of security.

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  Saw them a couple years ago right before they broke up the last time...good concert!

  OH...in the same place the JW's hold all their conventions!!
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  I was called by a JW wanting a favor...

  by Dawn in

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  yep - you read that right.. i had a message on my answering machine - a jw i used to know long ago, left a message, wanting me to help out with some legal matters (i have worked for the criminal justice system for about 15 yrs now).. my husband just about had a cow - here's someone who wouldn't talk to me at the grocery store, but has no problem talking to me if they need something?

  i thought to myself, could this person really be that nieve about human social situations - ie: if you're going to be mean to someone, don't expect a favor from them .

  ok ok, i know - i should show more christian attitude, turn the other cheek, and call this person back.

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  Kharma baby!! They do have wonderful nerve...even if they weren't JW and this was someone that has treated you badly..whatever!!

  If they call you back & you actually get to talk to them...just say "umm...no" and click...easily done!
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  What frightens you?

  by ozziepost in

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  got asked that question some time ago and have been thinking about it ever since.

  any answers?

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  Anything bad happening to my children in which I'm not there to protect them.

  spiders...hate em!!

  Drowning..my biggest fear is being in my vehicle, going off the road & landing in the water. I now have a device in my truck to break the windows should that happen...altho all the water where I live is cold year round, I'm not sure that's a better option. The fear of that happening & not being able to get my kids out. I have no idea why this is a fear, just that one of the major roads out of town goes along the inlet and well..yea...crazy drivers scare me.

  That and scary movies....I don't like scary movies!

  SK